Week 5: Keeper of the Visual Rolodex

While most of us women realize that men are stimulated visually, did you know that it is an involuntary temptation against which they struggle daily?  Some of us-especially the rough 25 percent of women who indicate they are visually oriented- may have a sense for this. However, the majority of us haven’t even known what “being visual” means, much less had any sense for what an overwhelming life factor it is for our men in this culture.

Because men are visual, even happily married men struggle with being pulled toward live and recollected images of other women- and, at the same time, a man needs his wife to be wiling to make the effort to take care of herself for him.

Weekly Challenge #5

As you go about your day this week look for images that could be construed as “eye magnets” for a man. Make a mental note of what percentage of the women on television or in public might pose a constant challenge for a man who wants to honor his wife in his thought life. Evaluate your home environment for ways to help your husband in this effort.

Let’s memorize some scripture!  

1 Corinthians 13:6-7

Love finds no joy in unrighteousness, but rejoices in the truth, bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Questions for Reflection

These are questions to encourage reflection and application.  Again, please do not feel limited to these questions.  Comment when and if you feel led and freely share what God is teaching you.  Most importantly, make sure you are respecting your man in your comments.

  • You know your husband appreciates beautiful women. In what ways do you see this as a burden with which he struggles rather than something he enjoys? How can you help him carry this burden?
  • Learning about the different responses to visual temptation between a man and a woman, how have you been reassured this week to realize this is not about you?
  • How has this study changed your thinking of fashion and style and in what ways do you think your man may feel about your appearance? Do you think he would talk to you about his feelings? Why or Why not? What can you do to help him feel more comfortable about discussing this issue with you?
  • Share the most important insight you have acquired this week.
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